Models and Modeling
The idea I would like to touch on in this moment is this idea of Modeling. What is Modeling? Other than the standard definitions which involve clay and sculpture, or ’super women’ and men (and of course animals) who project designer creations for our consumption, it seems we have models for every concievable thing known to man.
Of course I am eluding to ‘Modeling’ as defined in Neuro-Linguistic Programming, the ‘Modeling’ of human behaviour, made famous (or infamous) by the creators of NLP, Dr. Richard Bandler and John Grinder. Or maybe you’ve never heard of NLP; it really doesn’t matter.
An interesting definition about modeling, I found lately said “The process of creating a depiction of reality, such as a graph, picture, or mathematical representation.”
Even more interesting is the Oxford English Dictionaries definition of NLP: “a model of interpersonal communication chiefly concerned with the relationship between successful patterns of behaviour and the subjective experiences (esp. patterns of thought) underlying them” and “a system of alternative therapy based on this which seeks to educate people in self-awareness and effective communication, and to change their patterns of mental and emotional behaviour”.
(As I was went to an English Grammar School many moons ago, you might find a slight bias toward the that particular ‘Map of the World’, however I have traveled extensively, so please do not judge!).
We can come back to the alternative therapy question probably in a future post, for now let’s focus for just a moment on maybe what your relationship with Modeling could be?
Modeling is a process used to discover and codify patterns of excellence as demonstrated consistently by top performers in any field.
This what Dr. Richard Bandler and John Grinder did, they modeled top performers in their chosen field of study.
Now I believe that in fact we are all modeling and codifying patterns of behaviour from those around us, those we’ve had contact with, those we haven’t had any contact with all the time!
In fact, the very nature of the experience and the events of our lives so far have shaped that Model which is you at this particular moment in time.
I love observing behaviour at every stage of development from youngsters of 11 months old to the elders of our societies. And in particular most recently a man of 65 years of age, who came to see me and proclaimed “It’s my birthday today, I’m 65 and I’ve have never been able to live my life, I want to start right now, help me!”.
Now we don’t necessarily get to pick the top performers in the field, sometimes we just have to work with what is.
Who or what have you been modeling?
Are there frankly just too many models to choose from?
Are you getting the results in your life that you want and aspire to?
It’s a great place to start from (as long as you remember to diss-associate your feelings as you begin the process) because “Once you know, you cannot un-know” then maybe you’ll begin to realize you have more choice that you thought.
The goal is to explore successful strategies, take what works and utilize and find a transferable model that will eventually become natural behaviour.
There are many choices available for especially when we focus specifically on what we want.
What happens when you open up the doorway to understanding and you know exactly the choices that lay before you?
We can delete, distort, deny or simply generalize that these choices actually exist and decide to stand and look through the doorway, archway or window. In that moment you have a choice to either step, fly, run, glide, flow through into the realm of possibility or step, fly, glide, flow or fall back into the illusion that you have strived to find a pathway from. You can wish for something else, or wish it was for someone else but in the end it is a simple choice.
Once we know we cannot un-know.
What model looks, feel and sounds like it would fit into your future life, now.